It is Sunday morning just a bit after nine. At 8:08, as I was turning on my coffee maker, the sound of the bell harkening all for breakfast was absent in my home. As I watched the Olympics from my couch last night, I found myself teary-eyed and sad, missing all of you new friends who are now part of our old friends of Bjorklunden Photo. Friday, Bethany and I started
wondering how did we get here? How is our week at Björklunden almost over? Now I wonder how am I home and how am I going to survive 10-12 months until our next reunion? How does
this happen so quickly? Maybe you are wondering the same things and
suffering Björklunden Withdrawal. What, you ask, is Björklunden
Withdrawal and how do I know if I have it? And what do I do about it?! While I know I have been at these low points before and the depression
improved, today it feels just as intense as the first time. Bethany and I described the emotional state in 2010, having suffered it
for the third year in a row. While it is not a recognized DSM-IV
diagnosis, it is very real. But there is hope! Specifically, hope for
Björklunden 2013!
Björklunden
Withdrawal usually begins Thursday night, though for seminars extending
to Saturday, symptoms may not begin until Friday lunch. This is when
the sufferer realizes the end of the week at Björklunden is imminent.
Often, the onset accompanies the completion of the Photo Essay project,
when one has completed his or her last photograph of the essay and
closes the Photoshop application for the last time of the week.
Symptoms escalate during this first phase which includes the process of
packing up one's suitcases and camera/computer gear as well as the last
meal together (lunch Friday or breakfast Saturday) when goodbyes begin.
For returning participants, the fish boil or Swedish Pancakes with
lingonberries can initiate or worsen symptoms. The first phase reaches
its peak when cars are packed and the participants begin the drive down
the long windy Boynton Road to highway 57. Symptoms of the first phase
include a feeling of sadness often accompanied by a realization of the
strangeness of this feeling while at a wonderful place. Other symptoms
can include unexpected teariness, deep sighs, a sense of denial, and
taking mental postcards of memorable people and places such as your
room, the seminar room, or a look from a friend. Tears may well up at
the conclusion of the Photography Class slideshow or at other times
throughout the last 24 hours on campus.
The first phase concludes
once the vehicle leaves Björklunden property which signals the
commencement of the second phase. This phase can be severe with
feelings of depression often peaking when the sufferer awakes in his or
her own bed the first morning home or when the breakfast bell does not
ring signaling the amazing spread of cuisine and the start to a new and
exciting day. While reunions with family, a night in one's own bed, and
breakfast at home are all acknowledged as wonderful, the sufferer first
begins to realize how much he or she misses the people with whom the
week was just spent, how much each person in the class was enjoyed, and
how our lives were enriched by meeting, living, and working with each
other for a week. The second phase concludes when one comes to
acceptance that the Björklunden week is in fact over. This phase can
take a few days to a week to complete depending on how quickly one must
assimilate back into "normal", non-Björklunden life.
Phase three
is acceptance and is heralded by "forward-looking" where the sufferer is
able to realize that summer 2011 will be here before he or she knows it
and one will be back at Björklunden very soon. When recalling the
previous week, the sufferer no longer feels the sense of loss felt
during phases one and two, but feels a warm sense of fondness and
happiness. Life returns to "normal," with a sense of enrichment for
having been together at Björklunden. During phase three, the sufferer
completes the Twelve Steps of Completing Björklunden Mourning and
Surviving Björklunden Withdrawal.*
*The following are the Twelve Steps of Completing Björklunden Mourning and Surviving Björklunden Withdrawal:
1. Realize the end is near and inevitable and that there is life after Björklunden.
2.
Get up early-ish on the last morning to spend a few minutes sitting out
by the lakeshore benches or taking a long walk on the property and
listening to the waves lap against the shore.
3. Sit at the Photography class table(s) at the final meal.
4.
When packing the car, make sure your camera gear is easily accessible
so that you can stop along the drive out of Björklunden or throughout
the drive out of Door County to take a few last photographs to
commemorate the trip.
5. Take the old drive out of Björklunden
past the chapel, through the old gate, and down Chapel Lane to Frogtown
Road. Take a right and head down Frogtown road along the shores of Lake
Michigan. For maximum processing, roll down all the windows and play
favorite pensive music. Music suggestions can be: Homeward Bound (Simon
and Garfunkel), Leaving on a Jet Plane (John Denver), Ooh Child
(particularly the line "Things'll get brighter...." Marvin Gaye) or Two
of Us (The Beatles). Also, Carolina by James Taylor can be used if you
substitute Björklunden for Carolina (In my mind I'm gone Björklunden.
Can't ya see the sunshine, can't ya just feel the moonshine, Ain't it
just like a friend of mind, To hit me from behind till I've gone to
Björklunden in my mind...)
6. Spend a couple extra hours in Door
County before leaving the peninsula seeing a sight that you missed
during the week or return to a favorite spot from the week and soak in
the sights, sounds, aromas and even tastes (if you have any appetite
left after all the great meals, desserts, and snacks that were just
consumed in the week previous).
7. Once home, unpack your class
list and email all your new friends. This can also be accomplished by
joining the class blog and posting photographs and comments to each
other to encourage each other to continue growing in our new found
knowledge.
8. Process the rest of your photographs, selecting
your favorites, and show them to your family and share the experience of
Björklunden with them.
9. Recall the memories of the class
often. Consider putting together a photo book published through an
on-line store. Use this as your coffee table book for the next 10-12
months.
10. Continue to shoot, working your way through Phil's
book or repeating the previous weeks' assignments, challenging yourself
to do something different or improve your photographs in someway.
11.
Sign up for the Photography/Photoshop seminar in 2011 when the schedule
is announced in early 2011. Email all your Björklunden friends to tell
them you are coming back and cannot wait to return. Begin wearing your
Björklunden gear again.
12. Upon return, come in on Boynton Lane
drive off of Highway 57 as this is the fastest and most direct route
back to the lodge. Once through the door at the main entrance. breathe
deeply the air of Björklunden, taking in the Björklunden smell. Greet
old friends and look forward to the new ones you'll make. Sit at the
unofficial photography seminar table(s) for the Sunday night meal.
Settle in and begin to ready yourself for another great week of food,
friends, and photography.
A special thanks to Bethany for her
wise contributions to the editing and refining of the description of
Björklunden Withdrawal and the Twelve Steps of Completing Björklunden
Mourning and Surviving Björklunden Withdrawal.